Ah yes, the perfect mother…Everything feels easy for her. It all comes so naturally. Nothing about the stage of motherhood she is in phases her. She responds gently and lovingly at all times.
*She’s definitely not one skipped nap away from totally losing it.*
There’s this idea that if you’re doing it “right,” motherhood won’t ever feel hard…
I recently shared to Instagram stories about my youngest skipping a nap (and what that felt like for me), and then last week I saw a few others sharing their reactions to unexpected changes to daytime sleep too, which had me thinking: why is a baby resisting, skipping, or taking an extra-short nap so triggering or anxiety-producing?
As a new mom, I didn’t know how to open up about my rage because no one else was talking about it. I kept it quiet, simmering under the surface and felt so much shame any time it bubbled up (and sometimes out) in a way that didn’t align with who I wanted to be or who I believed myself to be before having my baby.
If there is one message I would spread to the ends of the internet, it would be this one: you are not alone. When I first had the idea for A Mama Friend, and posted a few times on my Instagram account in 2020, this was the topic of the very first post I shared. It was what I needed to hear then, and it is still what I need to hear now.
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